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Introduction
to "How To Attract Your Ideal Mate"
By Linda
Georgian
Introduction
Falling
in love is actually a powerful experience of feeling the Universe
move through you. The other person has become a channel for
you, a catalyst that triggers you to open up to the love,
beauty and compassion within.
SHAKTI GAWAIN
From the moment I opened up to my friends in college about
my psychic gift, the questions I've been asked the most have
been about love and relationships. Everyone wants to know:
"When will I meet my soul mate?" "Am I dating
him now?" "Will I ever hear from him/her again?"
Or, "Where can I find my ideal mate?" Each person
is looking to find their ideal mate to share in their journey.
Without love, people feel empty and lonely.
Love is the nutrition required by our souls to energize us
toward achieving our purpose on Earth. That's why it feels
so good. When we're in love, we feel as if there's nothing
we can't accomplish. Our bodies, minds, and souls are healthier.
It's no wonder that if you're not in love, you want to be.
And that's why we're driven to take the risks necessary to
find our ideal mate: we go on blind dates, answer personal
ads, read books, attend classes, call psychics, and pray to
find our soul mate.
The process of finding your ideal mate is an opportunity to
learn about yourself and your purpose in life.
Finding your ideal mate is more than just universal coincidence.
It's true that most people meet their ideal mates unexpectedly,
but that meeting is a by-product of the energy that you've
been reflecting to the Universe for a long, long time. The
journey toward finding your ideal mate begins with knowing,
respecting, and loving yourself first. My beloved mother,
Marie Georgian Simmons, told me when I was growing up that
it was important to develop myself as a person. This would
then allow me to attract another complete person into my life.
She said, "The most important earthly relationship that
you have is with yourself."
It's important to understand what you really want in a relationship
at any given point in your life, because that's what you are
going to attract. A friend of mine was recently divorced,
and she often said that she was looking for someone to have
fun with but not have a committed, ongoing relationship with.
The men who kept appearing in her life were also interested
in a noncommitted relationship. Eventually she complained
that none of the men she was dating wanted more than a casual
relationship. I reminded her that she was fond of saying that
she wanted only fun, without commitment. That's the message
she was presenting to the Universe, and that's what she was
getting. At some point she changed her mind about what she
wanted, but she didn't change her request to the Universe.
As we move through different phases of our life, the definition
of an ideal mate will also change to meet our changing needs.
During certain times of your life you may enjoy the lessons
you can learn from dating many different people. You may also
believe that there's one ideal mate for you, and you will
put your time and energy into creating and maintaining that
relationship. Sometimes you may think you've sent out one
request and you wonder why you keep receiving something else.
This is when you must take an inventory of your true beliefs
about relationships and your ideal mate.
The Universe is always listening to our requests. A couple
of years ago a colleague of mine had been dating a man for
about a year, but he had not yet expressed his feelings about
their relationship, or whether he even wanted to explore the
possibilities of it continuing in the future. Driving down
the highway one afternoon, in exasperation, she said out loud,
"All right, I'm tired of this. I want to know what he
wants!" Much to her surprise -- although she shouldn't
have been shocked, since she had directly asked the Universe
for information -- her boyfriend, over dinner that evening,
and without any hint from her, not only brought up the subject
but volunteered quite emotionally that he cared deeply for
her and wanted the relationship to last.
While some people might term this a coincidence, many of us
know that when we ask for information or make our feelings
known to what we loosely refer to as the Universe, or God,
or whatever we choose to call the creative force we are intertwined
with, we will get an answer, and often quite quickly. Somebody
or something "out there" is always listening --
and is indeed here to assist you. As many spiritual leaders
have stated, the Universe conspires to fulfill all our dreams.
As the following story shows, you can send verbal or nonverbal
messages to the Universe that you wish had not been sent.
These, too, demonstrate the enormous power we have to manifest
anything.
When
one of my clients began dating a man she found herself in
love with a few years ago, he was afraid because of the
strong feelings he had for her. It had been many years since
he had given up on the idea that he might find his ideal
mate, and in the meantime be had married someone who he
knew wasn't ideal for him. After that marriage faltered
and he met my client, he realized that she was everything
he had been looking for and that they were the "perfect
fit." My client felt that way, too.
So, what was the problem?
The
man, after expressing his deep feelings, seemed to stall
the relationship. Knowing that he was afraid, my client
was very patient, understanding, and encouraging. One evening,
upon the advice of a friend, she drew pictures of everything
she wanted at that point in her life. In addition to a few
drawings related to her career, she drew on the page a picture
of the man and herself holding bands. Around them she drew
a shining sun, a palm tree, a beach -- a beautiful romantic
setting. On her left hand she drew an engagement ring and
wedding band. To make sure that their identities couldn't
possibly be misunderstood, she even put their initials as
monograms on the T-shirts she had drawn on their figures.
For a couple of days the picture sat on the counter in her
kitchen, but feeling a bit embarrassed and not wanting anyone
else to see the picture (for fear they might think her superstitious,
childish, or even crazy), she put the picture on the top
shelf in her bedroom closet next to some sweaters.
She had not told the man about this picture. In fact, the
only one who knew about it was the friend who suggested
she draw it in the first place.
Within forty-eight hours of her placing the picture on the
shelf, the man she had been dating told her that he was
afraid of his feelings and needed more time to think about
their situation.
"I'm going to have to put you on a shelf for a little
while," he told her.
When she heard those words she froze, in shock that he had
chosen the phrase on the shelf. When she got home that night
she immediately took the picture off the shelf in the closet
and brought it back out into the bedroom.
"I stood there with the picture in my hand," she
told me. "I had no idea where to put it next. I could
not believe how much power this picture actually turned
out to have."
She moved the picture from place to place around her house
for the next couple of weeks, making sure it never sat on
anything that even remotely resembled a shelf. She then
said a little prayer, affirming her love for this man, and
asked the Universe to bring them together again. Finally,
she threw the picture away, releasing the power of the picture
to the Universe.
Within a few months, he had taken her "off the shelf,"
and their relationship resumed.
Another example happened to a client of mine fifteen years
ago, while he sat in a restaurant with a friend having ice
cream.
"I know what I'm looking for," he told his friend,
"but I just haven't found her yet."
"Me,
too," his friend replied.
"Why don't we try something just for fun?" my
client suggested. "Each of us can write down every
single quality and detail we can think of that describes
the woman each of us is looking for, and then let's read
out loud what's on our list."
They
each grabbed a napkin and wrote down their list. They left
no stone unturned. In fact, they both felt a bit silly because
their lists included the time of year they thought their
ideal mate's birthday would be, what her hands would look
like, and even the tiniest details about her family, interests,
and life's work.
They
read their lists aloud to each other and my client said
to his friend, "Well, if I run into your girl, I'll
send her to you; and if you run into mine, send her to me."
The
very next afternoon, my client met a woman through his work.
They be began dating a week later, and be soon discovered
she matched everything on the ice cream napkin list.
They were married two and a half years later.
This book highlights all of the principles I've learned and
taught people throughout my career as a psychic and spiritual
advisor. I also show examples of real relationships people
have had, either learning about the types of relationship
they want to have (their own individual spiritual lessons)
or actually meeting and beginning their journeys with their
soul mates.
In Part One we focus on the Law of Love. You must first love
yourself so you can give love to others. Relationships with
ideal mates are based on many types of love, depending on
what you need and want at that time in your life. We'll discuss
why you must become a whole person and live in a state of
love to create the energy to attract your ideal mate.
In Part Two we explore the Law of Preparation and Attraction.
Preparing yourself by learning what you want and need in a
relationship is necessary in order to attract what you really
want in a mate and in a relationship. Often we put energy
into creating one thing even though we really want something
else. It's like ordering cheese pizza and, when it arrives,
expecting there to be pepperoni on it. You must make certain
that what you want and what you request are the same thing.
In Part Three we see that once you've found your ideal mate,
it's important to practice the Law of Maintenance. You must
nurture your relationship to provide mutual growth that enhances
its spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical aspects. I'll
help you identify ways to develop a relationship from the
moment you meet a possible life mate until you're both ready
to make that commitment. Even relationships with ideal mates
require effort and care to ensure that the romance continues
to bloom.
In Part Four we focus on the Law of Letting Go. Some relationships
are part of our growing process as spiritual beings but aren't
meant to last a lifetime. Just because a relationship didn't
last forever, though, doesn't mean that the other person wasn't
your ideal mate for that particular moment in time. This chapter
will also reveal how to lovingly let go of past relationships
so you can move forward and begin new ones.
In each chapter you'll meet clients to whom I've taught the
principles of attracting their ideal mate and others who've
shared their stories about their relationships with me. You'll
see the principles of these universal laws in action through
these real life stories about people who've loved, grown wiser,
and have experienced being in a relationship with an ideal
mate. Your heart and soul will be inspired as you begin to
believe it can happen to you.
Remember, your will is very powerful. As you literally create
your life, think about this: In this world there are only
two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the
other is getting it. OSCAR WILDE
 Linda
was a nationally known psychic, lecturer, and author of four
books published by Simon & Schuster available at bookstores
nationwide or through Amazon.com. She was the former co-host
of the “Psychic Friends Network” with Dionne Warwick. www.lindageorgian.com
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