Five
Stages Of An Ideal Mate Relationship
In over three decades of giving intuitive consultation,
the most prominent questions deal with romantic relationships.
When? Who? Is my current interest/involvement “the one?”
Although there are many issues and variables to consider
in choosing to enter a relationship, author John Gray
in Mars and Venus on a Date defines the five stages
of dating as attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy,
and engagement. I’d like to share my views on these
stages.
Stage
One: Attraction - This is when you meet someone
and bond with them physically, spiritually, emotionally,
or mentally. You recognize that the person has many
qualities that are on your needs/wants list. You know
that you want to get to know them better. Attraction
at some level happens instantaneously. With rare exceptions
your ideal mate will be someone with whom you’ve bonded
(on some level) during the first stage. Sometimes we
may focus too much on the physical aspects of a relationship
when we’re in the attraction stage. It’s important to
find out if you’re attracted to the person’s mind, how
they respond to life emotionally, and how they incorporate
spirituality into their life. Ultimately, you want a
holistic relationship, which is a combination of physical,
emotional, mental, and spiritual bonding.
Remember, attraction is only the first stage in any
relationship. It’s when you’re flirting, and smiling
at the sound of their voice and presence. This is also
referred to as the honeymoon phase of a relationship.
Stage
Two: Uncertainty >>