Five Stages Of An Ideal Mate Relationship

In over three decades of giving intuitive consultation, the most prominent questions deal with romantic relationships. When? Who? Is my current interest/involvement “the one?” Although there are many issues and variables to consider in choosing to enter a relationship, author John Gray in Mars and Venus on a Date defines the five stages of dating as attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, and engagement. I’d like to share my views on these stages.

Stage One: Attraction - This is when you meet someone and bond with them physically, spiritually, emotionally, or mentally. You recognize that the person has many qualities that are on your needs/wants list. You know that you want to get to know them better. Attraction at some level happens instantaneously. With rare exceptions your ideal mate will be someone with whom you’ve bonded (on some level) during the first stage. Sometimes we may focus too much on the physical aspects of a relationship when we’re in the attraction stage. It’s important to find out if you’re attracted to the person’s mind, how they respond to life emotionally, and how they incorporate spirituality into their life. Ultimately, you want a holistic relationship, which is a combination of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual bonding.
Remember, attraction is only the first stage in any relationship. It’s when you’re flirting, and smiling at the sound of their voice and presence. This is also referred to as the honeymoon phase of a relationship.

Stage Two: Uncertainty >>